Start apologizing. Stop being Defensive.

DMHoughton
Jun 11, 2017
2 min read

Do you have relationships in your life that are difficult? Are you always fighting at work? Are there people in your life that drive you nuts? Are things "hard" on a regular basis?

I used to live there too! I get it. Guess what? You can make it different but it has NOTHING to do with THEM!

I know that doesn't make sense right now. You're thinking, oh yes it does...you don't know who I work with or who my spouse is or the asshole I have to deal with. Yes I do.

I used to be surrounded by people that drove me nuts all the time to.

THEN

I

LOOKED

IN

THE

MIRROR!!

Think about that for a looonnngg time.

The good news is here, now you can fix it. Think about it. If you can control it, if you can fix the situation, if you can react, behave, differently...you can change any of the situations in your life that are causing you stress or heartache.

You CANNOT change other people! That is where your discomfort and stress comes from. You're trying to fix a person or a behavior in someone else that you cannot control.

What you can control, and what will make you happy again, is controlling how you react, behave, think about this other person or persons.

So, do you want real happiness? Change the way you're showing up. Apologize more. Go into your interactions with others differently and watch them change.

You be the one that makes it different. Whether the other person changes anything is not the goal here. The goal is that YOU change. You get better. You become wiser. You learn to handle situations differently and you NEVER again, lose your peace because of the way something else is behaving.

Strip away your defense mechanism. Apologize when you need to, maybe even if you don't think you need to. Put a stop to negative interactions and bring peace whenever you can.

Let me know your experience with this. It will be hard at first. It takes practice. I promise, eventually you will remember this post and you will understand exactly what it means and how life changing it can be.

To forgiveness,

Donna