Why people wear pajamas to Walmart!

Well I knew THIS title would get you here but what the hell am I talking about?

You hafta give 'em credit right? I mean wearing yoga pants and a workout shirt is one thing but the fleece jammies with the Pokémon on them....seriously? I wouldn't purchase those let alone wear them in public. However, I admire the people that just do not care what you think about them!!

And that's what we're taking about today!

Now of course we all know in some cases, the reason they have no fear of walking into Walmart with their hair uncombed, teeth unbrushed, and still in their fuzzy pj's is because they just do not care about their appearance. I will go ahead and throw in here that I do understand in some circumstances, that may be the only clean thing they had to wear or maybe one of the nicest. In those circumstances, by all means go to the store in your pj's.

I have of course judged & laughed at this behavior but just because I am so interested in human behavior, I always try to see things from another perspective. Maybe they do it because they're just so darn comfortable they just don't want to change out of them. I mean that is why I go in my yoga pants even though I haven't done yoga that day or for a month!!

I'm not judging but I am observing. I am super curious and maybe just a bit envious. The reason I'm envious is because they made the decision to go out in public in what was most comfortable for them without any regard for what you think of it.

Hmmm. Who's the smart one and who is the self centered, people pleasing, arrogant one?

Do you ever wonder if maybe they look at you and wonder why the hell you came to Walmart in heels and a nice dress? They probably assume you're stuck up and think you're better than everyone else. They probably laugh knowing that your feet hurt like hell and they're comfy in their slippers!!

I'm not saying you should go buy some cartoon covered fleece jammie pants and go to Walmart so I won't consider you arrogant, but I do think there is a lesson here.

Why do we put makeup on, style our hair, iron a shirt, find matching socks, spritz perfume or cologne before heading out to the store? I don't know about you but sometimes I just want to go get one thing and I just don't feel like going through the routine...but I do it anyway. Why?

We do it because it is a societal norm and because we're afraid we might run into someone and they'll think we're really a messy person if we aren't fixed up. We do it because we want to be seen in a certain way. We want to be known for always looking good, clean, proper and there is some truth to the fact that you show up better when you're dressed for success. We do it because we want to feel good as well.

But if you thought no one would see you....would you go with makeup-less and in your jammies?

We care too much about what other people think is the point I'm trying to make. I am super guilty as charged. Of course I don't want to run into anyone or have the clerk look at me like I'm homeless. It's always been this way and probably always will be. However, I will admit as I've gotten older, I have let go of some things that I realize just don't matter that much.

I will still put on deodorant and brush my teeth, put on clean clothes and take care of my hair before I go out, but I will admit a ponytail and yoga pants are not out of the question. I remember a time when I read an article by some stylist that said one should never go to the store in yoga pants. I mean what if you meet someone? I believed that for awhile. Now I realize, in my yoga pants I'm dressed better than a lot of people and I've never met "the perfect guy" at the grocery store anyway. She lied to me!

I just want you to consider areas of your life where you may be doing certain things or behaving a certain way just because you're worried what others will think. I recently talked with someone that told me she isn't really happy in her gorgeous home and hated being "made up" all the time. She just wanted to be able to chill sometimes but her husband's career required a lot of entertaining and last minute dinner parties and she always had to be "on." This doesn't sound like to bad of a life to me, but that obviously isn't who this person wants to be and she is doing it, living untrue to herself, to make her husband and his colleagues happy. That shit will sting after awhile!! I promise eventually the resentment that is boiling just below the surface will start bubbling over the edge and explode someday.

I ask you to take an honest look at your life, your career, your relationships and consider where you may not be living authentically. The reason I think it's so important is because I meet with so many people that are unhappy with their lives. Most of the time this is caused from living a life that we don't want to live. It's probably comfortable. It's probably what your parents wanted or what's good for the kids but what about what is innately good for you???

I truly believe if everyone was living their life in the most authentic, self loving way, we would be living in a world with much happier people. You would never be stressed or upset or pissed because you would be choosing only people and things that truly make you happy.

Can you take some time this week to consider if there are areas that you can start living more congruently to what you really, really want? It first takes awareness, then some visualization of the real life you want, and you can begin to take steps toward getting rid of what you don't want and adding in what you do.

As always, we are here to help you navigate this amazing journey we're on! Feel free to schedule a call to learn more!

To Your Most Authentic Life and Comfy Pj's!

Donna